Belief 1: A child is naturally good.
Sometimes parents' false beliefs interfere with their children's education. The first belief is that the child is naturally good. Parents believe that as a child grows up, he will naturally learn to respect others. Children already have a good heart and the ability to empathize with others from birth, so they thought that their parents would grow well without much effort. But this is both an illusion and a misunderstanding. Russo argued that in order for a child to feel human and social feelings, an active education is necessary ('emil'). He also said, "When a child is young, an uneducated child cannot feel this feeling." Letting a child decide anything and see the reality as he pleases is like making a child a serious tyrant."
Belief 2: You should pay attention to all the negative behavior of the child.
Parents are very sensitive to what their children say and how they express their feelings. Especially when it is a negative emotional expression. Parents need to think about their child's feelings in a very flexible and relatively relatively relevant way. Even if you are equally angry and irritable, the cause of the emotion varies depending on the situation. For example, if a child who comes back from school suddenly refuses to eat and is confined to a room, or if a child who listens to his or her parents suddenly becomes irritable and defiant, this clearly means there is something wrong with him. However, if homework does not allow you to see the cartoons you want or cry because you can't play the games you want, it is annoying when your needs or desires are not met. The child is not truly sad or depressed. In order to understand a child's behavior properly, he or she needs to understand the reality of the child, not the emotion itself, and focus on the "realistic meaning" of the child's behavior. If not, they will not be able to train them to accept delays and rejections.
Faith 3: Compulsory education is not good.
The physical and emotional stability enjoyed by a child does not only bring happiness to the child. Of course, it is important to continue to give affection to a child. Separately, parents force their children to eat vegetables or study for their children, making demands that run counter to their children' At this time, parents cannot be generous to their children. Of course, you shouldn't use verbal abuse or lie, but sometimes you should be firm and loud to your child. And it is necessary to physically punish a child if he habitually disobeyed and disobeyed his parents.
Faith 4: The child is too young to ask for something.
What would you think if you saw a child about the age of seven washing the dishes or cleaning his room? Don't you think you're too hard on your parents? Parents tend to think their children are very young. Of course it's young. However, you shouldn't be reluctant to do or ask your child to do something because you are young. When a child is old enough to control his or her behavior, he or she can do as many chores as possible, such as cleaning a table or moving a spoon. You can get a child to tidy up his or her toys or to help with cooking.
Belief 5: Better a parent like a friend than an authoritative parent.
Many parents dream of being friends and a new generation of parents who understand their children. They value children's autonomy the most. But autonomy is just one goal of education. And autonomy is formed practically when a child is mature enough to live without the protection of the family. It is the fact that parents are the authorities that should teach a child before autonomy. Of course, it's not that parents who are as kind and ungrateful as friends are bad. But a child should know that it is the parents who teach, love, protect, and decide what to do and sometimes punish. I hope parents will remember that their final goal is to teach their children skills and wisdom so that they can live successfully in the world without them.