Parents want to raise their children better than anyone else, regardless of whether they are in East or West. However, just as it is said that teaching someone else's children does not teach them, education of their children is not an easy task for parents. Along with the methods presented here, we cited common characteristics of parents with successful children based on other scientific findings.
1. Guide to do housework. "Children who don't work at home will not only avoid responsibility, but will learn that individuals need to get together and work together as a whole to create more strength," Julie Liscott Hayes, the dean of Stanford University's freshman department, told the U.S. TED. "As children grow up, they can learn responsibility and cooperation by participating in household chores such as cleaning and laundry," Lilicott Hayms said. "They will also be employees who work well with other teams."
2. Teach challenges and failures. Parents are eager to lead their children like sheep and help them avoid failure and suffering. But overprotectiveness only results in damage," Riscott Hayes said in his book, 'How to Raise Children,' wary of overprotective parenting. He explained that young people who are overprotected grow up without the will, personality or skills they need to know and make their own lives. "I've seen a lot of students fail to cope with their lives while working with the best and the brightest," Lisott Hayes told the Los Angeles Times in the past. "I got high marks on oral exams and credits, but I couldn't make any decisions about my own problems. We exchanged text messages with our parents several times a day and demanded instructions," he said.
3. Don't overstep child studies. The harmful effects of parents' excessive intervention are the same in their studies. In his book, "The Wrong Way of Education and How to Live a Meaningful Life," Bill Derregievitz said parents' excessive academic control can be very damaging to their children. Students who grow up with parents who are overly involved in their studies are driven by the fear of failure throughout their lives. The fear that children and their parents feel when they fail to reach a set goal is said to be threatening enough to bring down their egos.
4. Teach social skills Researchers at the University of Pennsylvania and Duke University tracked 700 preschoolers until they reached the age of 25, and found that children with high social skills during childhood were often successful after they became adults. Socialized children who do not need to be induced or matched to their peers are understanding and caring, and have excellent ability to solve problems on their own. When they grew up, they mostly had college degrees and had a lot of part-time experience. On the other hand, children who lacked social skills were often reduced to criminals or addicted to drugs when they grew up, and most of them belonged to low-income families who applied for public housing. Christine Schubert, program director for the Robert Wood Johnson Foundation, who sponsored the study, said the study shows that the most important part of parents' education for a healthy future is their social and emotional skills. "The social skills that have developed since childhood determine whether a child will enter college or prison when he or she grows up, be employed by a company or become addicted to drugs," he said.
5. Create a healthy family atmosphere. Children who grow up in harmonious families, such as eating or talking to their parents often, are more likely to succeed. According to a study by the University of Colombia's CASA of 1,200 teenagers, children who eat family meals had twice as many A's as those who did not. The same is true of our country. The results of the 2016 College Scholastic Ability Test released by the Ministry of Education showed that students with more conversations with their families performed better on the CSAT. When asked about "talking about parents' (family), school life, and friendship," according to a survey conducted by the Korea Institute of Curriculum and Evaluation, the more students answered "almost every day," the higher the standard score for the CSAT in all areas. Divorce and domestic violence, on the other hand, have a significant negative impact on the child. According to a British group of family legal lawyers, two out of three failed the high school graduation qualification exam, and one out of eight fell into drug addiction due to stress from their parents' divorce. Thirty-three percent also suffered from eating disorders such as bulimia and anorexia. Children exposed to domestic violence also suffered from mental disorders such as depression, anxiety disorders and attempted suicide, and were more likely to learn violence. According to the National Child Abuse Statistics of the United States, those who suffered from child abuse were 59 percent and 28 percent higher than those who committed crimes in adolescence and adulthood, respectively.
6. Try not to reveal stress to child. Parents' stress has an adverse effect on their children as well as on themselves. Children with high parental stress had an average body mass index of 2 percent higher than those with low levels, according to the study at St. Michael's Hospital in Canada. The speed at which weight was increased was also 7 percent faster during the study. The hospital concluded that in cases of parents' stress, they often eat instant food because they are bothered to cook, and as stress spreads to their children, it is easy to have lazy habits such as eating more and not exercising. Studies show that parents' stress increases the risk of asthma in their children. A team of researchers from the University of California studied 2,497 children aged 5 to 9 without asthma for three years on the level of stress between parents and children, air pollution in residential areas and exposure to cigarette smoke during pregnancy. The results showed that parents' stress, more than any other factor, increases the incidence of child asthma in situations where the level of contamination is equal. "The more unpredictable, controlled or unmanageable parents think of their lives, the higher the risk of their children's asthma," Professor Rob McConnell said. "The stress of parents lowers their children's immunity and makes them more vulnerable to illness." The findings were published in the British daily Telegraph.